Category: Travel

  • Before Three Sisters: A Road Interrupted, A Heart Opened

    Before Three Sisters: A Road Interrupted, A Heart Opened

    Before Three Sisters: A Road Interrupted, A Heart Opened

    We left Johannesburg in the early light, bound for Worcester — a journey that would return me not only to a familiar valley, but to a story still unfolding. I climbed into Deem’s bakkie at 6:20am. The air was still soft with sleep, but the weight we carried was real — a dinghy boat hitched behind us, and cement bags packed into the back to balance the load. Deem was heading to the Cape for another transport run, as he often did — ferrying cars, boats, bakkies, golf carts, whatever needed moving.

    He kept it steady, slow — 80 to 90 km/h. The road hummed low. We started talking.

    Mostly about our children.

    His sons, his daughter. Now grown. Their paths, their beliefs, the choices they were making in a complicated world.

    “I worry, bru,” he said. “About their Islam… their qibla.”

    I nodded. And gently shared my own truth:

    “We’ve already planted the seeds, Deem. Madrasa, school, life. The goodness is wired in. They’ll find their way to the Divine — maybe not how we imagined, but still. They’ll find it.”

    We sat in that silence — the kind that listens.


    Faried and the Detour

    Just before Three Sisters, Deem got a message. A friend of his, Faried, had broken down with his family. We rerouted.

    And just like that, our quiet bakkie became a car of five — Faried, his wife, and their daughter now in the back seat. I stayed quiet. This wasn’t my space to speak.

    But something had shifted. The stillness that had carried us through the early part of the journey made way for the unexpected warmth of company, for laughter, for memory. What had begun as a private ride between two companions was now a shared passage — a reminder that some roads widen not with tar, but with presence.

    The wife was chatty, warm, full of stories. She and Deem started talking about Deem’s drivers. One in particular: Archie.

    “Archie’s solid,” she said. “Kaaps, maar sharp. Always shows up.”

    A few kilometres down the line, just past Beaufort West, almost in Worcester, Deem turned to me and asked:

    “You know what Archie’s real name is?”

    I smiled.

    “My eldest brother — Allah yarhamu — was Fuad. But everyone called him Archie. So… is he also Fuad?”

    Deem laughed.

    “Nai bru… his real name is Abdul Qahhar.”

    We both burst out.

    “Qahharjie becomes Archie! Allah!”


    The Bend in the Road

    The road narrowed into the Hexrivier Valley. Dark by then. But not empty. The headlights caught a curve.

    “You see that corner?” Deem said.

    And then he told me:

    His father — Omar, also known as Amie, known to my kids as Dada — once took that very bend too fast. Racing from farm to farm, moving fish, goods, deals. He missed the turn. His bakkie flew into the river. He survived. And fished out his own worker, too.

    “I was a laaitie then,” Deem said. “But every time I pass this spot, I remember. Dada was tough. A real survivor.”

    I stayed quiet. Because what do you say when the road opens memory like that?


    To Worcester, With Love

    And then, as the road opened wider and the mountains made way for valleys known in name and marriage, I found myself returning not just to a place — but to the people and stories who made that place feel like mine.

    Worcester wasn’t just a destination. It was memory incarnate.

    When I married Sadia, I stepped into her family’s legacy — the Fakiers and the Majieds. Worcester was theirs. Her childhood. Her community. Later, her battleground — she became a unionist, fighting for dignity across these valleys.

    Back when I was still courting her, I’d drive my light blue VW Beetle 1400 — my first car, bought from Deem — all the way from Cape Town to Worcester and back. About 120 kilometres each way. For love.

    So that night, when we came through the final bend, the boat still hitched behind us, the road folding into familiar curves… I realised:

    This wasn’t just a road trip. This was return.

    To family. To love. To the people who carried us before we even knew their names.


    Closing Blessing

    As Shaykh Jamiel Abrahams said, in response to this journey:

    “Many a person with shaggy and dusty hair, dusty and driven away from doors… if he was to call on Allah ﷻ, Allah would surely answer.”

    Some roads answer us back. Even in silence. Even before Three Sisters.

    And maybe, if you’ve followed this far, it means you too have travelled one of those roads — or carried its dust in your shoes.

  • Part 1: Jordan, Sweet Jordan

    Part 1: Jordan, Sweet Jordan

    Notes from a week of sightseeing, in three parts.

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    View from Queen Alia Airport in Amman, Jordan.

    She said, “I need to have my work visa renewed and the closest place for me to go is Amman, Jordan. I don’t want to do this alone. Can you meet me there? It will take about a week…” I had just begun to recover after almost two weeks in Abuja, Nigeria for a hectic work engagement. By that Sunday, my Emirates flight touched down at a fairly quiet Queen Alia International. The wonders of online booking!

    For the next few days we would play a waiting game for Sadia’s work to email her an official letter. This letter she had to use to make an online application. She was supposed to then get an appointment and then we needed to pick it up at the visa offices in Amman. Simple enough. But the online app kept on crashing as soon as she pressed the button to confirm. The nightmares of online booking!

    But, meanwhile, we were in Jordan! Sadia and I had been to Saudi Arabia for pilgrimage. We had been to Turkey for a week. We had been to Malawi… But never to Jordan. And there is so much historical sites to visit in Amman and surrounding areas, we decided to make the best of it. After all, was it not Prefab Sprout who kept on reminding us “Jordan, Sweet Jordan. Hand me any cup you find that’s lying spare. Jordan waiting for me there…”

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    Sadia and I with Amman in the background.

    So how do you get see as much as you can, staying as close to the capital as possible just in case the letter arrives or you need to dash off to the embassy if all else fails? You get an uber driver, that’s what! But with a strong taxi lobby in Jordan, uber and Careem (a competing taxi app in the Middle East) now operate under the radar. So henceforth, when I speak of our uber driver, I will call him ‘Mr Amman’.

    When Sadia arrived at the airport in Amman, it was the most convenient thing to use her app to get to midtown. She didn’t realise that uber wasn’t legit. When Mr Amman arrived to pick her up, he explained his position. But we are from South Africa. We’re quite accustomed to supporting the underdog. And so for our stay in Jordan, Mr Amman became our go-to guy.

    For starters, he found us an apartment that was way more competitive than staying in midtown. I asked him, “Mr Amman, what is cost of living like in Jordan or at least in this town.” “Mr Adli,” he said, “it is too much expensive. To live ok, in an apartment and to eat everyday you need maybe 1000JOD.” Good with the numbers, Sadia adds, “That’s almost R20 000! A month!”

    “Would that include a car?” “No! Just rent, food and so on.” Over the next few days I realise that public transport is virtually absent in Jordan. There are no trains and maybe public buses but not too many because, for all our drives through the city, I didn’t see any. The Jordanian Dinar (or JOD, pronounced JD!) is strong. You need R18,72 or $1,41 to buy 1JOD.

    Sadia and I realised long ago that, whenever we travel, it’s a mistake to constantly convert currency when buying things. You allocate your money for food, accommodation, travel and so on and then you go about your travels. If you constantly convert, you will stay in your hotel room! The one good thing about the Middle East is that, generally, food is cheap. And when I say cheap, I mean street food!

    So if you like shwarma, falafel, kabsa and so on, then you can survive quite well in Jordan. Of course, all over the Amman, there are also outlets for American food franchises such as KFC, McDonalds, Burger King and others I had not even heard of such as Popeyes. What is also very useful, is to rent an apartment and then stock up with your basics such as coffee, bread, cereals and so on from a local supermarket.

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    Apartment blocks with shops below.

    For the next few days, while waiting for the letter, Mr Amman took us all over his city. The hills of Amman gives the city an interesting character. It’s like Cape Town’s Bokaap but times 100. This makes for very many quaint streets with its many twists and turns in a city with mostly white buildings. Mr Amman tells us that this, the colour white, is a city ordinance. So if you haven’t been paying attention to the street names, you can get very lost in Amman!

    One fine morning, a cool Autumn 24 degrees celsius, Mr Amman arrived at our apartment building. He said, “Today I think I will take you to see Jerash. You will see. You will like it too much!”